When you have no plus and and you are attending a wedding on your own, here’s my advice and top tips on how to get through it and be quite proud of yourself.

Will you be brave enough?
I found it is actually all about having confidence speaking to people you don’t know and not feeling like a absolute tool / Larry Loner, that is the honest truth there’s no sugar coating here.

Well this situation occurred for me last year, there was a plus one invite, but he decided to have a job interview instead #selfish…lol. There was never an option where I wasn’t going to go. I wanted to see my friend get married bottom line.  Cut to plan b , this failed miserably. This would have involved taking my 6 year old son out of school for the day on a “roadtrip”. He politely declined before declaring he didn’t want to miss goldentime in the afternoon – Cheers Pal! I decided to man up and brave it alone.

So as you do I decided to google “going to a wedding on your own” and thought I would adopted some tried and tested techniques. Here are mine to share based upon my day.

Trust your mate.

Now my mate is awesome I know she wouldn’t sit me next to any old random at the meal and she didn’t. I was sat next to a lovely lady who’s name escapes me, but she was funny and chatty and on my wave length. Now on one blog they suggested seeing if you had any mutual friend on social media who were going, got to be honest I never did this. A top tip here is if your worried speak to the bride/groom and ask her to be mindful of who they you sit with. They may just know someone who will get you, chances are her other friends will be just as nice as you, and if not, that’s just gonna be unlucky….

The easiest part

Is watching the ceremony you don’t have to speak to anyone just smile here and there and try not to die inside because you know people are thinking ” is she on her own”…lol

Tip sit with confidence and don’t be a wilting willow. Use this time to chat to those around you before the ceremony starts, it’s a nice way to meet a friendly face.

The hardest part

Is the bit in between, after the ceremony and before the meal it lasts ages. Now there is only so much polite conversation one can do, plus you don’t want to interrupt conversations. You can feel a bit of a saddo stood at the bar on your own so cue google top tips;

Get some key conversation starter lines: How do you know the bride? Isn’t it lovely here? tbh does sound cheesy but bet you still say them…lol

Take a magazine –  say what!

Yes 100% after I had chatted to people for a while the conversation kinda drifts off, you can feel like your imposing on people and to be honest a bit of a spare part. I don’t feel comfortable steaming in on someones conversation as outgoing as I am, so I took a magazine and read it in the car for a bit. I called my mates to justify my action…lol and to be honest I needed to do that. It just took that pressure off my shoulders of going it alone and forcing conversations on people, if I’d had a hotel room I would have been there.

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Do not feel bad, the couple are off having their picture taken so don’t actually notice. It is just a way of coping through what can be quite a long part of the day.

When is the right time to leave?

For me I left after the cake had been cut and people started to naturally drift from the table, there was no guilt I was leaving early. After a couple of soft drinks (I was driving) I politely left thanking all those whom I had met and also the Bride and Groom. I met some lovely people and I would just say don’t be shy just go for it after all what’s the worst that can happen?

Much love,

Nic x

 

Feature Image Credited to :

Josh Applegate